Queer: Reclaiming the Spirit of a Word.

One thing about me is that I can’t go on twitter, click on a link (especially ones re-tweeted by @evanrachelwood) without going to the site (usually advocate.com or huffingtonpost.com) and reading comments on whatever article the before mentioned link sent me to.

Now your probably thinking, “Okay, so what?” Well, how to say this…….. Stupid folks get my “Irish UP”, which is usually followed by my posting a reply comment and then next thing I know it’s 4 hours later and my quickie 20 min on Twitter is anything but.

Luckily, I have my readers to express my half asleep, unwashed hair, insomnia again, undone laundry and dishes self to knowing that you lovely folks (who never rarely comment) will in your steadfast silence reinforce that “it’s okay/I’m okay simply because no one complained”.

So what had me all riled up?

Well, over @ the advocate.com Faith Cheltenham wrote an article entitled, “Why I Celebrate Bisexual Pride”. (Which by the way is September 23 annually since the early 90’s according to Faith) Ms Cheltenham’s article was good and basically a commentary/editorial piece about why she embraces the celebration of identifying as bisexual.

Of course, since I MUST read the all comments or suffer some sort of “aneurysm from low blood pressure and a productive lifestyle offline” I came across a comment from “Me@yahoo” (such an original username – nothing like owning up to your opinion, eh?) who wrote:

 “Anyone who proclaims Bisexual Pride while referring to herself and other LGBT folk as “queers” is talking out of both sides of her damn mouth”. Reply · Like · Follow Post · Sunday at 3:35pm

So basically in my quick tempered and bad English intolerant way I replied:

“@me from yahoo — I’m not sure what your equivalency in regards to the English language is but the word ”Queer’ (as well as  the word ‘Fag’) wasn’t originally used in regards to the to the LGBT community. Fag was a cigarette and Queer was used to describe something different. So to intimate that the Gay community has some type of exclusive ownership of the word Queer is ridiculous. In the last decade many folks who don’t want to be pigeon-holed, gender, sexual or otherwise have gotten back to the original spirit of the meaning of the word ‘Queer’, using it to describe that they are indeed ‘different’….. In fact, I think Gilbert and Sullivan said it best in Mikado: “If you want to know who we are”, “We figure in lively paint: Our attitude’s queer and quaint—You’re wrong if you think it ain’t!” . Heh. Fits, don’t it? 

So maybe an advance course on words and their origins would help you from voicing your opinion at the same time as having your foot in your mouth.”

Then just when I thought it was safe to log off a Mr Anthony Berardo commented:

Anthony Berardo·  Top Commenter · Rutgers–Newark

“Shouldn’t it be called “bench-sitter pride”? What’s an article like this doing in this gay magazine? What a bunch of crap. I remember when this magazine had standards related ONLY to the gay/Lesbian community”.

Reply · Like · Follow Post · September 22 at 11:30am

I have to admit that in my reply comment I noticed that my patience was dropping as rapidly as my IQ was. So my reply was:

@AnthonyBerardo How sad for you that you have become an oppressor no different than those who have been trying to run us gay and lesbians off since way before Stonewall. We gays and lesbians aren’t some exclusive team, love is love and injustice is injustice so maybe rather than discounting those on ‘our side’ embrace the spirit of the word Queer as different. How can I trust you to protect my rights as part of the LG if you scorn the BTQ part of the whole. Grow up and get with the times!

At this point I pretty much called it a night!

Discuss? Comments?


Jodie Foster chastises the media, defending Kristen Stewart and celebrity privacy.

Jodie Foster Blasts Kristen Stewart–Robert Pattinson Break-Up Spectacle.

Now that you have (hopefully) read the above linked article and maybe some of the comments, here is my two cents. First notice how my headline greatly differs from The Daily Beasts. This is me departing from the theatrics often seen in the headlines of yellow journalism.

This may be my most unpopular point of view but I don’t think that Jodie is defending Kristen’s recent infidelity. Think about it, how could she? I think what she is trying to express is how hard it is to be a celebrity and live a normal life. I have read so many comments on so many forums and social networks focusing on the idea that Kristen deserves to suffer for hurting Robert and we have a right to demand info about it since she’s a “public figure” (which even if so, isn’t anyone’s business/judgement call).

I’ve noticed that there seems to be an idea about celebrities in general not deserving privacy because they chose their careers i.e. chose to be in the spotlight.  So does that mean that cops deserve to be shot? Don’t they choose their own careers also i.e. put themselves in the line of fire? Are we so disassociated with our own consciences (which is defined as the personification of the moral sense of right and wrong) that we feel a choice to wear a gun or badge, or a desire to entertain for a living justifies a loss of life, safety, and privacy?

I have been thinking about this subject for a few weeks now. Most people know that I’ve recently become a huge admirer of Evan Rachel Wood and never miss a tweet of her’s so in being so diligent in reading what she has to share I have had what some call a “consciousness raising” about how celebrities are often robbed of what we non famous folks take for granted like a bike ride with our loved ones without being chased by people snapping dozens of pics (meaning someone would have to be running or driving along side, or in front of them) of what would for us be a normal relaxing bike ride could be a dangerous distraction for celeb or photographer.

When is this type of  intrusion enough?







On to another of my favourite celebs.

How do those of you who enjoyed watching TV shows like “Everwood” and “Brothers & Sisters” or even the current hit TV show “Revenge” think the Emily VanCamp must feel about not even being able to take out her trash without someone snapping off a dozen pics of it? Me? It sickens me that we can’t give a little thing like privacy to those who have given us so much joy with their performances. I know I would see it as a huge invasion of privacy if someone came up in my yard and started snapping pictures of me feeding my dogs or taking out the trash in my cut off jeans and morning bed head.

It should be a no brainer to at the very least respect celebrity privacy while they are at home or on what is obviously their day off to be with their loved ones.

In  closing, let me say that I am rarely more in awe of Evan Rachel Wood then when she is standing up and speaking out for her beliefs.

Evan telling of the Paparazzi

I think that says it all!


Evan seems more funny when I have insomnia!

I just really love this kid!! Watch her on Jimmy Kimmel. She is so wonderously goofy!!!

Speaking of Jim Henson…..

I really love Evan Rachel Wood! I love her voice when she speaks as much as when she sings and boyo can she sing!! As with her ability to be an excellent character actor she’s not locked into a certain singing style/genre either. I heard her sing as a child so soft and sweet, and in recent years belt out a Janis Joplin tune to almost rival The Great Pearl herself. It’s kind of silly but I have a whole playlist in my head that Evan would sound awesome singing. My special favorite one on that playlist is the song called “I’ve been loving you too long” by Otis Redding  Yeah, I think that’s definitely an item for the old ‘bucket list’ for me to hear her sing that song!

Now, if you’ve never heard Evan sing, take a moment and listen to this – it’s my favourite song I’ve heard her do thus far. You will be glad you did!


See there! I knew you would like it! If it wasn’t painfully obvious before, I must admit that I have an odd crush on Ms Wood, and no, not like sexual, it’s just that, well, she makes me proud and very hopeful that more of our future youth will be as open-minded, outspoken and honest about their views, who they are and where their place is in this world we live in, as she is. Oh and did I mention she can act like awesome x infinity?! It’s all there you can see the 100% she gives in all she does right there on her face, the expressions, so honest, real – like she’s not acting at all..

So what does ANY of this have to do with Jim Henson, you ask?? Well, Evan loves the late great Mr Henson (especially Labyrinth) and since this just seems to be the week for LGBTQ supporters to appreciate the legacy of Jim Henson and his wonderful company why not combine two very awesome and LGBTQ supporters in one blog entry.

Once Upon A Time a brave man lead a pilgrimage to a new land, so why not do it again, it only takes a dash of love and a pinch of courage. EOT.

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